How I Help

Not every woman I work with knows she's ready to leave, and many aren't even sure what they're experiencing counts as abuse. Coercive control rarely looks like what people expect abuse to look like, there's no bruise, no single incident, nothing to point to. Drawing on my domestic violence training, I help you recognize patterns you may have normalized, without diagnosing or labeling anything for you. I'm not a therapist, and if you don't already have one, I'll help you find one, since outside professional support is something I ask every client to have throughout our work together.

My work is to help you break the cycle, recognize the pattern, and stop giving it power over you.

Your spouse has likely spent years learning exactly how to provoke you, and in high-asset, high-conflict cases, that pattern often continues into the legal process itself, where the system can become another tool of control. Without support, it's easy to react in ways that cost you credibility, money, or time. I help you stay strategic instead: what to say, what not to say, when silence protects you more than a response, and how to secure your privacy, including your digital security, so nothing you do gives him leverage.

If you decide you want a plan, I'll help you build one. That means protecting your privacy so nothing tips off your spouse before you're ready, thinking through logistics, and organizing a clear, factual record of what's happened, the kind that makes life easier for a therapist or attorney when you bring them in. If you don't have an attorney yet, I can help you find the right one, along with financial, security, or custody resources if your situation calls for it.

When it's time to move, I'm with you through the parts that are hardest to face alone: the fear of filing, the anxiety of your spouse being served, the first boundary you have to hold and actually enforce, even if that means calling 911. During the most intense periods, I'm available daily. I help you communicate with your attorney clearly and efficiently, sit in on calls when it helps, and make sure nothing asked of you falls through the cracks.

If children are involved, I'll help you hold steady through the emotional and logistical weight of custody proceedings. When a case involves formal evaluation or allegations of parental alienation, I bring in a specialist who handles that alongside me, so you're never facing it without support.

Think of my role as scaffolding, there when you need structure and support, built to come down once you're steady on your own.